tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25570732.post169025438277150544..comments2023-10-03T06:19:05.055-07:00Comments on i am saved by the buoyancy of citrus: January makes me feelingsy.raychhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08321213376462899047noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25570732.post-36323966243776891192016-01-22T20:23:59.678-08:002016-01-22T20:23:59.678-08:00I have this theory that this stage where kids star...I have this theory that this stage where kids start to seem not so cute to their own parents is mandatory to their development. If we continued to see them as ridiculously adorable, we would let them get away with childish behavior for much too long. It happened to me with all three of my kids somewhere around the age of 3 or 3 1/2, and I think it is worse when the child has been particularly precocious all along, because such children attract a lot of attention and the change is more noticeable. But at some point they have to get over themselves so they can get on with life among others. It does make you feel guilty, especially if you still have a child in the super cute toddler stage. But think of how some children who are exceptionally pretty well beyond the cute early years sometime turn out to be a$$holes and/or incompetent when they get older. (An extreme case where this developmental stage goes wrong is with child actors or performers.) My theory is that these feelings in the parents are necessary to the child's maturity. I also remember that it happens again at about age 8, when they start to go through a physically awkward stage. It can help spur the parent to treat the child like he or she is starting to grow up, which is important to their development.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01199123148860925901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25570732.post-5317272535288180042016-01-22T13:27:41.534-08:002016-01-22T13:27:41.534-08:00Yeah, there's some hard stages. I'm with y...Yeah, there's some hard stages. I'm with you on that! <br /><br />I have a lot to say but nothing is coming out right, so I'll just look wistfully off into the distance and wish we could talk about kids over coffee instead of over FB or blogs! trishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10688001590373132381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25570732.post-55378064591689023862016-01-22T11:07:20.374-08:002016-01-22T11:07:20.374-08:00This time of year *is* hard. You're a good Mom...This time of year *is* hard. You're a good Mom and your girls are amazing. Hang in there. (In the meantime, a video of Geneva being a troll under a bridge would be awesome!)dlgowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04791677084609206084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25570732.post-9502977015870886462016-01-22T06:22:11.792-08:002016-01-22T06:22:11.792-08:00Hey, let me tell you something: I was a bratty chi...Hey, let me tell you something: I was a bratty child in middle school and now my parents are my best friends. Just know that this isn't going to last forever. Somaiyyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06213132946627468875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25570732.post-43810349773589441652016-01-22T02:50:57.770-08:002016-01-22T02:50:57.770-08:00But Raych, I love you, from all the way over here,...But Raych, I love you, from all the way over here, and I know children are very complicated little beings. And I know you are alone with them for a long time each day.<br />So: thank heavens for pre-school and time out and watching a movie and when they are asleep. <br />(Also, don't forget that rewards for the good sometimes work faster than punishments for the bad.)<br />(Also, girlfriends and wine.)<br />You're doing a great job. A great huge job.blackbirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05474831322702380602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25570732.post-12337715983874583032016-01-21T22:35:18.400-08:002016-01-21T22:35:18.400-08:00Not at all simple, but they are amazing, as are yo...Not at all simple, but they are amazing, as are you. People are complicated critters. Hang in there, you'll all make it through.Kamsarmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14430332707868869459noreply@blogger.com